22 April 2013
"People will sometimes say words that come across as unkind. Words such as 'get over it' or 'you have other loved ones' or 'it's time to move on'. They may even turn their backs on you. Know that they simply don't understand grief nor have they walked in your shoes. Although you may feel angry with them, try to open your heart with compassion because they just don't 'get it' and it's hard for them to see you in pain. One day, most likely, they will understand." - Transcending Loss the lifelong impact of grief.
Just now - more than seven years later - I'm finally beginning to transcend loss. I did actually have to get angry and get done with some people. Once that happened I was free to heal. I was free to not be the strong and capable one anymore. It feels kind of good to allow myself to be weaker than I used to be. I feel like I relate better to suffering people nowadays and that they relate better to me. I am finally understanding the concept of finding strength in my weakness.