19 Feb 2018
All it takes is a web search using the words "blame" and "suicide" to see how big a topic this is. Survivors of Suicide Loss says that "chances are you will find that each person – no matter how close or removed they were from the suicide victim – willingly takes the lion’s share of blame on themselves."
I have a dad friend who lost his teenage son, and he says he is responsible for being too distant. I won't argue with him, because it's his personal belief based upon his experience. I also feel complicit in my daughter's death for not knowing enough about healthy self-care, and thus not teaching her healthy self-care.
Maybe if guilt is used to begin strengthening relationships in healing ways then it's a good thing. I do know that letting guilt and self-blame take over my thoughts is not helpful.